Am I being too picky?

[neotoma]

I just got off the phone with a woman who I've been playing phone tag with for over two weeks -- she'd call, leave a message about the apartment, then not return *my* return call until the next week.

She wants to rent month-to-month, while I have a lease. I'm not sure that the apartment complex allows that -- her subletting from me without a lease -- and I'm thinking I wouldn't LIKE that either.

Plus, her tone was very much of the 'you really haven't thought this through, have you?' snippyness. While true -- I've been making assumptions about the sort of person I'd like as a roommate, and assuming someone who wants the stability of a year or half-year lease is one of them -- if she doesn't like what I appear to be over the phone, why the hell is she wasting my time?

On the other hand, it's getting quite expensive to pay for this place myself, and the spare room is just going to waste. I need a roommate to split the rent.

But I don't want to deal with someone I'll despise. I wound up doing that in college more than once, and it's not something I'd care to repeat. Especially while working oddball hours and trying to have a social life.

Comments

[clara-swift.livejournal.com]

My gut would say if you don't like dealing with her over the phone, you're going to like her even less when you're living with her.

I dunno.

it's a tough call...

[neotoma.livejournal.com]

I think what really annoyed me is that I very dutifully called this woman back twice, each time the day after she called (I sleep in the evenings, so I don't get a chance to return phone messages earlier). Both times she did NOT call me back that day or the next, just waited until the next week and my next ad in the paper.

Phone tag with useful messages is one thing. Phone tag with no indication of trying to create a dialogue... no.

[florahart]

Nah, I'd say if she's making you cranky before you ever even meet? Doesn't really sound promising.

I would point out that subletting month to month would also allow YOU the flexibility to end an untenable situation, if you got yourself a roommate who turned out to not do anything illegal, but drove you completely insane. So THAT part, might be worth considering.

[neotoma.livejournal.com]

Hmmm. You do have a point about getting rid of incompatible roommates. I'll have to read my lease again, but I really think having a new roommate requires having a new lease agreement, with both names on the lease.

I'll definitely call the apartment management to confirm tomorrow, though.

[caligryphy.livejournal.com]

Um, if I may offer something...? It also means you'd be responsible if she did random crap to the place, or if she skipped out on the rent. Don't deal with it. You're getting shady vibes for a reason.

[neotoma.livejournal.com]

wel, more like 'rude' vibes, but I'll investigate the rules about leases and sub-letting anyway, since I really should know them now that it's been pointed out, though I don't think I'll take this woman on as a roommate. Her behavior on the phone managed to rub me wrong, especially when I was trying to be helpful and answer her questions as informatively as possible.

[kaiz.livejournal.com]

I'm with everyone else; bad vibes galore over here. I'd pre-emptively ditch this chick before she screws you.

[bratsey.livejournal.com]

sweets, if you dont feel comfy with it don't do it!

[neotoma.livejournal.com]

Well I don't think I will. But it's not like you or one of my other fan-buds are moving here to room with me :(

[athenakt.livejournal.com]

Jeez- when I'm dealing with people who are potentially going to be long term associates of any sort I at least try to be polite to them. If she can't manage politeness or your terms, I'd say don't waste the time or aggravation.